The Loss of Innocence

Loss of Innocence

Living brings a loss of innocence.  Our mind and our ego are what create that loss of innocence.

The purity of who we are (our identity) becomes tarnished when we experience life through our mind and ego, because they can only offer opinions, beliefs, and judgments.

The mind and ego do not know right from wrong. They assume the answers to life are simple and any answer can take the pain away.

As an example, we can watch a movie containing death and killing, because it is viewed from a distance.  As we watch, we tell ourselves, “It is only a movie”.

In a real situation, like what soldiers experience during war, our mind and our heart collide violently.  The experiences bring shock and a loss of our personal innocence.

As a way of coping, we suppress (hide) those feelings.  Our ego seeks self-preservation, but our heart demands redemption, so the greater damage is done to ourselves -- not the deceased in the movie, or what happened on the battlefield.  The greater damage is always done to us.

We live with the horror of ourselves and so we question, “How do I live beyond this moment of time where guilt has replaced the innocence of my youth?”

Without our loss of innocence, we would never question what appears to be true, so we can discover within what is true about life and us. We have begun the great journey of life back to the source of all of life’s answers; back to knowing who, why, and what we are, within our consciousness.

There will always be casualties in conflict, but there will also be discoveries too.

Feeling is Healing

When we embrace the truth, we heal.
Truth is Reality.
Therefore, Reality is Healing.

Hiding from reality is what tortures us, because we are denying the truth of what we feel.

No matter what we have seen, or done, when we face the truth (the reality), we face ourselves and that is what we want to heal.

The mind escapes reality by hiding in the imagination.  Through denial, the mind avoids confronting pain. Through denial, we escape our healing, we bury our feelings, and we are tortured by our mind and imagination.

When we escape from what we feel, we also escape from the truth, and this hides the reality of what we have experienced. This hidden reality is what can awaken us to the truth of ourselves and our existence.

The horror of the truth carries our healing, from all that we experienced.  Our unconscious reminds us daily that we are avoiding the truth and the reality of our experiences.

We cannot live in the now, because we are lost in the past.  The mind and unconscious remember and, because of that, we cannot heal.

Forgiveness is the total acceptance of what is, what was, and what will be, without any judgment.  This can only come through embracing the truth of what we feel.

We cannot heal, if we do not feel.


by Robert S. Cosmar
Writer, Blogger, Astrologer, and Author of four books about Awareness
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